Communicate with Clarity and Kindness
We spend so much of our lives communicating—talking, reading, writing, listening, even carrying on conversations in our own minds. The quality of those shapes the quality of our relationships, and through them, the quality of our lives.
Yet most of us receive little conscious training in this essential life skill. Our habits of communication are learned from family, school, culture, and society—often unconsciously. This leaves us unprepared for some of the most important moments in life, both personally and professionally.
The practice of mindful communication brings awareness, honesty, and care into our relationships. We learn to pause, listen deeply, and speak with clarity and compassion. The resources below offer practical tools to build stronger connections at home, at work, and in the world. Explore at your own pace—read an article, watch a short talk, or begin a full course of study.
1. Start Here: Stop Arguing
Learn six key principles to get out of habitual arguments and shift a conversation from conflict to understanding.
2. Foundations of Mindful Communication
Explore the core teachings of Oren’s integrated approach to Mindful Communication.
The Practice of Mindful Communication: Discover the three foundations that make communication a path of awareness.
The Three Most Common Pitfalls in Nonviolent Communication: Understand where we often get stuck — and how to stay balanced and authentic instead.
Watch: Oren on Mindful Communication: Watch this 45-minute talk introducing key principles and practices.
3. Books and Courses
About the Book: In Say What You Mean, Oren Jay Sofer offers a unique and pragmatic approach to deepening and improving relationships by transforming our patterns of speaking and listening. With a step-by-step approach for lasting changes in our fundamental orientation to communication, Oren brings a clear, new voice to the world of interpersonal communication.
“No other book I’ve read has helped me with my ability to communicate in my work as much as this book has.”
About the Course: A companion to the best selling book, this two-part online course provides step-by-step guidance to transform your conversations. Oren’s integrated approach to communication training draws from decades of training in Buddhist meditation, Nonviolent Communication, and somatic trauma healing. Find the right words when it matters most.
“Oren’s online course was one of the best learning experiences in my 30+ year career!”
4. More Mindful Communication Articles
Explore reflections and teachings on mindful communication in daily life.
5. Free Tools & Mindful Communication Talks
Explore talks, guided meditations, worksheets, and handouts to support your study of Say What You Mean and your practice of mindful communication.
Nonviolent Communication Games
Made for facilitators, therapists, coaches, educators, leaders and parents, GROK Games build empathy through play. Learn how to:
- See through non-serving judgments with self-empathy.
- Support connected, empathic conversations, so everyone feels heard.
- Speak up openly, honestly and skillfully.
Click here to explore GROK games, facilitation materials, and books.
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