Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication

A 12-week *LIVE* online course

January 16 – April 2, 2020

cost: $250 – $300

[Registration opens november]

“With clarity and great insight, Oren Jay Sofer offers teachings and practices that train us to speak and listen with presence, courage and an open heart.”
— Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

About the Course

We spend our lives communicating. Every day, in every area of our lives, we are relating to others, to ourselves, and to the world. Yet how much of the time are we running on automatic? Relying on old habits and hoping for the best?

Based on Oren’s new book, Say What You Mean, this 12-week online course offers training in Oren Jay Sofer’s unique, integrated approach to communication. It is designed to support you to bring the principles and practices of Say What You Mean into your daily life and relationships. With expert guidance from the author, you’ll learn ways to:

  • Feel confident during conversations

  • Stay focused on what really matters in any interaction

  • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations

  • Listen for the authentic concerns behind another’s words

  • Strengthen your capacities for resilience and empathy

Drawing upon the disciplines of mindfulness meditation, Nonviolent Communication, and somatic trauma healing, this course offers concrete tools to hold one’s own while still hearing others and to collaborate effectively. Through a combination of mindfulness practices, guided reflections and interactive exercises, participants will develop a stronger sense of presence, greater access to compassion and more versatile, clearer communication.

“Oren is a master facilitator. His class will teach you how to manage conflict, embody empathy, and connect with what really matters in every situation.”
— Joshua Berkowitz, Mindful Instructor

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Each Live, 90-minute session includes:

  • Teachings on a key aspect of interpersonal communication

  • Guided meditations on cognitive, emotional and somatic aspects of communication

  • Personalized coaching and demonstrations of tools

  • Interactive Q&A with the author

What else You Receive:

  • Access to online Q&A and correspondence with the author

  • Weekly practice assignments and journal topics

  • Optional weekly calls with a practice buddy

  • Lifetime access to course audio recordings

  • Professional Semester Units/Credits for teachers*

Who's it for?

This course is appropriate for those newer to Nonviolent Communication as well as for experienced practitioners seeking to deepen their skills. Oren’s students include: psychologists, therapists, doctors, nurses and healthcare practitioners, chaplains, teachers, writers, artists, life coaches, lawyers, police, engineers, civil servants, and many more. *If you are a teacher, see below for information on how to apply for credits.

Logistics & Registration

Registration opens November, 2019.

12 week LIVE Online Course with Oren Jay Sofer
Dates: Thursdays, January 16 – April 2, 2020
: 5:00 – 6:30pm PT / 8:00 – 9:30pm ET
Cost: $300 – $250 (group & buddy discounts, scholarships available)
Questions? Check our FAQ.

registration opens november, 2020

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“Oren’s book, with his characteristic warmth and lucidity, is a great gift to anyone seeking more connection, clarity, and compassion in their life.”
— Joseph Goldstein, author of Mindfulness: A Practical Guide to Awakening
“Oren’s eloquent book ... gives us essential frameworks, perspectives, and skills for our shared humanity.”
— Larry Yang, author of Awakening Together
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“The combination of mindfulness and communication skills in Oren’s course dramatically shifted how I engage in conversation. What I’ve learned ... has had an enormous impact on my life in both my personal and professional relationships.”
— Dr. Patricia L. Huertas, MD.

It looks like the class already started. Can I still join?

No. Unfortunately, registration closed on February 4th.

I have to miss a few of the sessions. Will they be recorded?

Yes. All of the live sessions will be recorded and available for viewing afterwards. Participants will have indefinite access to the audio recordings from the course.

My internet is slow. Can I call in by phone?

Yes - you can join the live calls on your laptop, mobile device, or by dialing in by phone. For laptop and mobile you will need to download the Zoom app (instructions will be provided. For phone, you must be able to place a call to regular number (it is not a toll-free call).

Does the course include anything else other than the 90 minute weekly sessions?

Yes. In addition to the live 90-minute sessions, each week includes: a written reflection from Oren; suggestions for practice; optional interactive exercises with a buddy; optional online correspondence in the course forums.

How much time will it take me to participate in the course each week?

That depends on you. The minimum amount of time is 90 minutes for the weekly sessions. We recommend spending at least 1-2 hours more each week reading Say What You Mean, as well as doing the practices. Some participants may choose to spend more or less time depending on their schedule.

I can’t afford the tuition for the course. Do you offer scholarships or discounts?

Yes. We’re committed to making these tools and training available to everyone regardless of their ability to pay. If the requested rates are beyond your means at present, click here to request a scholarship. Let us know what amount would be sustainable for you to pay, and we’ll work together to help you attend the course.

My schedule changed and I’m no longer available on Thursday evenings. Can I get a refund?

Since all sessions are recorded and available for viewing afterwards, we encourage you to stay in the course and simply view (or listen) to the sessions on your own schedule. If you would still like to cancel, you may do so as long as we receive your request before the course begins, less a $50 administrative fee. There is no refund after January 30th.

I am a teacher; how do I apply for credits?

To apply for Graduate-Level Professional Semester Units/Credits through the University of the Pacific based on your work with Mindful Communication Training contact “Courses4Teachers”, 925-837-3817 or email:

“The skills I developed studying with Oren have been extremely valuable in both my professional and personal interactions ... I can’t recommend his highly beneficial trainings enough.”
— Dr. Michael Aanavi, PhD, LAc.


“Take this class. It will provide you with tools to break patterns and communicate in a way that will enhance all of your relationships.” — Course Participant

“Oren has a deep experience and understanding of NVC with the flexibility to apply it to each person practice. I’ve been impressed to notice how he meets each student where they are and finds the heart of the situation.” — Nancy, Horticulturalist, Berkeley CA

“Oren is well-organized… and leads the class in a way that is useful for people of all ages and different skill sets. I truly believe that this class could have saved most of my past relationships. [Since taking it]… I am opening the door to creating the level of connection and communication I have sought my whole life. ” — Liz Walton, Yoga Instructor

“I deeply appreciate the depth of insight, clarity, honesty and compassion that I experienced in this class. The integration with meditation and embodiment helped me connect to the NVC practice at a depth that I hadn’t experienced before.” — Helen Kwon, Development Coordinator

“After this workshop I feel a greater sense of trust and connection with myself and others. I feel like I know better how to approach the world with my full self.” — Patrick S., Marriage and Family Therapist

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